Dealing With Difficult People
Some people are pretty easy to get along with and others, how shall we say this – aren’t.
There are people who, no matter what you do, just aren’t very pleasant to have as roommates or co-workers or bosses. Since they exist, you need to be able to handle them. Here are some methods for dealing with difficult people.
Don’t try to change their minds
No matter how much you might think you are a shining example of what every human should be, some people are simply not going to like you. Some people are just going to be rude to you. And some people will be all out mean.
You didn’t do anything wrong, it’s not a fundamental flaw in your character, it’s just something that happens, so file these people away in your head as difficult, and move on.
There are a couple of things to remember here. One, don’t let their behavior get to you. Two don’t bother wasting your time to correcting their misconceptions. Don’t go out of your way to please these people, or work tirelessly to get on their good side. You’re wasting your effort. If you want to do something nice for someone, pick someone out of the reams of people who already like you.
Be secure enough not to need the approval of everyone. Just tolerate the difficult ones, be polite, and move on. If you’re consistently excellent at what you do, they’ll come around. Or maybe they won’t. But it doesn’t matter because what they think of you isn’t your business.
Don’t get trapped in pointless arguments
Sometimes difficult people will start arguments for no reason aside from the fact that they like to turn everything into an argument. If you find yourself constantly arguing with certain people learn to disengage. Don’t waste your time or your breath trying to convince to sway them to your viewpoint. You are only allotted so much energy per day. Don’t waste it on pointless, winless endeavors.
Don’t be a doormat to them
If the difficult person in your orbit begins to move past being merely a jerk and it turns into straight up harassment, it’s no longer time to not engage. At that point you need to stand up for yourself and let a superior or a person of authority know about inappropriate behaviour.
There is a difference between learning to let difficult people’s rudeness roll off you, and allowing yourself to be truly abused by someone because you want to take the high road.
Difficult people are going to come into your life. Learn to deal with them and the difficulty will be passing.